In my work as a coach, I see women shrinking instead of shining, and suppressing themselves instead of and showing up authentically.
Why?
Because of something someone (or some people) said to them years ago. And though the years have passed and the seasons changed, those words have stayed with them till the present.
That young girl is now a mother of her own children, and as much as she wants the best for her own children, if she doesn’t deal with her own mindset, the cycle will likely continue.
I often wish I could go back to that moment in time when her self-love was snatched away from her, and erase that moment altogether. But I can’t.
What I can do is walk her back to the time those memories happened, albeit a painful journey for a brief moment. Then we begin the work of healing and affirmation.
Here are some truths:
If you’re tall, God made you that way.
If you’re short, God made you that way.
If you’re brown-skinned, God made you that way.
If you’re white, God made you that way.
If you’re quiet, God made you that way.
And if you’re loud, yep, God made you that way.
However you are, He designed you specifically that way. As cliché as it may sound, God does not make mistakes.
He doesn’t expect you to stay stuck in that place of a damaged self esteem. And it’s not enough to just be functional, when you can be fulfilled. A big part of your journey to fulfillment requires that you overcome that mindset of not being enough…of not measuring up.
Here’s the good news: When you fully accept your uniqueness, God can open doors in your life that cause even those same naysayers to wonder, “How did that happen?”
Are you ready to unlock your true potential? It requires effort, but it’s as simple as accepting who you are, while doing the work to keep growing and blossoming.
You don’t have to do it alone. With the help of a counselor or a coach (or both), you can start your journey to a fully alive life, showing up as the authentic you, no matter who is in the room.
Here’s to you. I hope you shine. I hope you push past your past and thrive.
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